Mixed Signals

Mixed Signals

You know what mixed signals are: one moment, he's caring and warm with you, and you get excited, thinking you're getting somewhere with him. The next moment, he's cool and aloof - and you're really not sure what happened.

Then, out of nowhere - BAM! You're back getting warm, caring behavior from him.

So does that mean he likes me, or does that mean he doesn't?

I don't know exactly know the answer to that for now, a lot of questions have been bugging my head lately and in fact I've asked few of my closest trusted girlfriends to assess the current situation that I am in. They all have different readings and reactions but one thing's for sure: THAT I SHOULD BE GUARDING MY HEART for now. 

The fact that I'm getting mixed signals give me the right to question the legitimacy of his actions and words. Because I hate getting mixed signals. It's like "If you like, tell me, if you don't like me, don't act like you have feelings for me when you're just going to back down at the end of the day."

I'm way too old to be playing guessing games.

By making me confused and making me jealous of they way he interacts with other girls he may have or may not have feelings with, it only pushes me away to the point that I won't care anymore. Because when I get my heart set on someone, that's where it will stay. I'll always be loyal to you.

There are times when I don't understand you. You treat me as friends, then as something more than friends and then as if we're cool, like strangers.

And there we go again,

With your mixed signals and my overthinking.

Because it's YOU and Me and NEVER US.

We are a complicated series of ALMOST Interactions.

So to ease my questions and my mind and heart both aching for answers, I've read some article about this effin' thing and according to Sabrina Alexis, 

When a guy is sending confusing signals, it usually means he’s either ambivalent or maybe somewhat interested … but not interested enough. And in these cases, nothing you say or do will change that. You cannot convince someone to want you, and no amount of wanting him will make him want you back. If he was iffy about you from the start, then nothing you said or did caused the relationship to end … there just wasn’t enough there to begin with.

According to Rania Naim, "When he says he is not ready taking it to the next level but who knows what might happen in the future." 

What he means: He is either really not ready or he doesn’t think you are the one, when he says “who knows what might happen in the future,’ this is his way of trying not to completely break your heart so he gives you any sort of false hope. Either way don’t wait for him to be ready and just find a man who doesn’t send you any of those mixed signals.

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To the one person out there, I know we're both not ready yet, so for now let's take most of our times and enjoy it to the infinite level. I know you have your own personal reasons for sending me mixed signals that ultimately confused my feelings but I also do believe in a very optimistic way that whatever reasons you may have, perhaps it's for our own good. We don't need to rush things, if it is really meant to be, it will be.

For now, let's stop all this daydreaming Zy, set aside your feelings, do not let your emotions get a hold of you, cause you're like waiting a boat in the airport, never gonna happen. It would only lead to getting your hopes high then get disappointed.

There will always be a time for everything, just wait for it. This may not be your "Happily Ever After" but for now, God is speaking to you to "LEARN THE ART OF WAITING" and good things will flow out of it.

Your heart is precious, it may have been broken and torn down a thousand times yet here u are, you've outgrown every heartbreaks in life so let me remind u this, GUARD YOUR HEART once more. Build higher walls if you need to and WAIT for that MAN who will treasure it.

All the love,
Self